About me
I have that dream!
It is extremely important to me to tell as many parents as possible how to deal easier with their dear offspring.
It could be so much more relaxed. All it takes is a little consideration and tweaks.
I am neither an Holy, psychologist, psychiatrist nor am I an educator -
I'm just a mom who loves her daughter more than anything and has always been enthusiastic about treating horses with care.
In a nutshellI mean the following:
When dealing with a child, the same rules apply as with a horse.
Every reaction has its legitimate reason and should be interpreted correctly to avoid misunderstandings!
My strategy:
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I see a new chance in every new and unfamiliar situation
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I am optimistic and look ahead
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I view my failures moderately and don't always look for the mistakes in myself.
What happened until now:
Chapter 1
1979 – 1989 Sheltered Childhoodt
I grew up free and happy in the countryside of Mecklenburg-West Pomerania. I have absorbed many positive values from the people around me: handling resources (money, food, energy), solidarity for the unprivileged (everyone outside the bubble of affluence), legal awareness, mindfulness of the environment. My parents gave my sister and I everything a child could want to grow big, strong, and happy.
Chapter 2
1989 The turning point - youth - Realschule - completion of "middle maturity"
Flooded with new values, capitalism and mass consumption, I had to find my place and didn't become the ultimate consumer thanks to my parents' values and steadfastness.
Chapter 3
1995 apprenticeship in Reinbek (near Hamburg) – 1998 graduation "Hotel Specialist"
At the age of 16, far from home and completely on my own, I began three tough years of apprenticeship. My parents supported me from afar, because there was no other way. A hard test of life, because I was often close to giving up. Actually, I must have been very lucky and/or had some knowledge of human nature, because I got through this hard time almost unscathed.
Chapter 4
1998 Hamburg – Start of professional life
As I was just 19 years old, the self-responsible finding for housing and a job was anything but easy, but my parents continued to support me as best they could from a distance. Various jobs as a waiter and later a long-term position as a banquet cashier at CCH in Hamburg I did finally got.
Chapter 5
2005 The jump was relieved of me
Luckily for me, the entire CCH catering business was dissolved after 8 years working there. Without this "kick with the boot" I would probably still be working there today!
This heralded a major upheaval. I ended my grey, energy sucking, 7-years lasting relationship at the same time. (there were also happy moments, of course, otherwise you don't get through something like that for so long).
... well, no half measures ...
Chapter 6
2006 Move from Hamburg to Erlangen (Bavaria)
In 2005 I met the man of my dreams.
Because of love I made the decision to leave everything in Hamburg behind me und to begin a new life with my current husband... If so, then yes!
…no half things…
Chapter 7
2010 move to Klagenfurt with my great love
end of the year we moved to Carinthia, my partner's old home.
2011 wedding
We celebrated the most wonderful and well planned wedding imaginable with the most wonderful people imaginable!
2013 HAK evening school
… no half things...
Chapter 8
2015 Birth of our daughter
That changed EVERYTHING - whole life.
The entire perception of the world around changed.
The priorities shifted.
The beloved little being became the center of our universe.
2017 Graduation "HAK Matura"
With grade "2" everything was in dryn towels. My husband was the world's best motivator and coach. He's been incredibly supportive. Without him it would not have been possible for me. Our daughter was only 2 years old.
… no half things...
Chapter 9
2022 The decision to try something new
The little miracle creature is now 7 years young and is becoming more and more independent.
After some deep conversations, I came to the conclusion that I will achieve what moves me the most:
Namely, to convey a new understanding of children.
There never was and never would be a better time...
…now or never
2023 The “Flight Animal.Child”
project For maximum effectiveness I decided to put everything
on this site summarize what might be useful to others.
…no half things!
2023/24 Various online courses in NVC from Kathy Weber
2024/25 Basic training in NVC (Nonviolent Communication according to Marshall B. Rosenberg)
To be even more effective, I decided to deepen my knowledge with further training.
2025 April Gold Program from Hermann Scherer
Given the strong need for helpful communication in society, I felt it was essential to go public. I chose this training to learn the necessary skills and techniques. In mid-May, I completed the live training in Niedernhausen near Wiesbaden.
2025 June Website www.KatjaEttinger.com
With this website, I took the leap into visibility. There are linked videos, including one of my performance.
...to be continued
How I became, who I am...
I have all my life heard sayings and of course internalized them.
They are short and concise. They burn into the brainstem.
Almost everyone has one or the other heard or heard of before.
Above all, it was for me "Cobbler stick to your last".
I never thought about what can cause it. In fact, I always thought that it should protect me from nonsensical daydreams and enable a quiet, contemplative life.
So far so good.
But if it's meant to keep you small and docile, then it's pure poison.
Take a close look at whow is saying it to you and if they are using it to their advantage.
In my life it has meant that I have always followed the rules and functioned well. This has worked relatively well so far. But now I'm coming to the conclusion that it's not enough for me anymore.
I am now 44 years young and would probably hear from many people with raised eyebrows: Man, you have everything. Why are you fooling yourself now. Are you having a midlife crisis, or what's the matter with you?
Might be. However, it could just as well be, that through all my experiences in life now I find out, that I will get sick if I continue like this.
So the only thing that remains to be considered is whether I should swap my big/small economic successes for happibess or just continue as before.
My definition of happiness is a state in which my body and mind remain healthy over the long termin.
So not the visit to the Casino ;-)
I can best describe myself as follows:
I am …
... slightly below average size,
… average pretty,
... somewhat above-average security,
… somewhat below average health,
... little above average intelligence,
... average athletic,
… rather below-average ability to multitask,
... rather below average stress resistance,
... have an above-average sense of justice and
I…
... am above-average solution-oriented.
Gosh, until recently I actually thought this was an annoying and rarely useful feature.
"Katja always has an answer" That was written already in our wedding newspaper about me.
That could have motivated me, something great to start with...
But self-doubt slows you down badly.
I had been told too many times: "Cobbler stick to your last!"
As a Team Assistant although I worked in a solution-oriented manner. But I often had the feeling that most people just weren't looking for the best or most efficient solutions. That has always frustrated me immensely.
